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Journeying the Shoreline of Emotions: Unveiling the Lives of Wives in Challenging Polygamous Relationships

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DOI: 10.18535/sshj.v8i08.1266· Pages: 4578-4585· Vol. 8, No. 08, (2024)· Published: August 22, 2024
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Abstract

The purpose of this study is to discuss the experiences of second wives in polygamous marriages and the psychological impact they endure while living in a polygamous relationship. The research method used is descriptive phenomenology, utilizing data analysis techniques. Participants were recruited from South Kalimantan and East Java through an online form using Google Forms. A total of four second wives participated in this study, with an age range of 23-45 years. Participants were selected using a snowball sampling method. Data were analyzed by repeatedly reading the transcripts and identifying key themes. The results of the study show that life in a polygamous marriage is full of challenges. The second wives feel that living in a polygamous marriage is a fate determined by God, and although they accept the marriage, they face issues such as feelings of dissatisfaction, vulnerability, jealousy, nagging tendencies, and irritating habits. The psychological impacts experienced by the subjects include frustration, annoyance, heartbreak, mental pressure, feelings of inferiority, anxiety, and restlessness. Communication in polygamous marriages plays a crucial role, where openness and good communication between partners can support a positive relationship, while the inability to be open and communicate can become a barrier.

Keywords

Polygamous marriageSecond wife

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